At best, Relationships have a natural ebb and flow. At worst, driven by stormy seas of change and circumstance, Relationships crash and then smash against the rocks thereby eviscerating them. When this happens we are left with the remnants and fragments of What Once Was scattered in pieces all around us. We are challenged, then, to survey these ruins and contemplate salvage. But it takes a minute to stand in the middle of it all. It takes a minute to fully realize that What Once Was is good and truly gone. Does it matter, then, how we got Here? What's Broken is Broken. We're Here. Now. So, Now, we must start where we are and Now we must go on.

This is a critical part of any Life. This is Journey and Life's Journey pulls, pushes, cajoles, manipulates, conflicts, confuses, slays, breaks, shakes, presses, squeezes, tests, questions... On and on it goes. Life takes us in very different directions than we may have envisioned when we started this thing called Relationship. Though sad, it is also True. And we can respect and honor the Journey, the Courage, the Sorrow and the Pain of all of What Once Was between us.

"Are You A Reason, Season, or a Lifetime?

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

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"Where there is ruin, there is hope for a treasure." Rumi